The Twelve Days of Christmas – Divorce Edition
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The Twelve Days of Christmas - Divorce Edition - Day 1
5:23 - Dec 10, 2020
Join Attorney Hannah Hembree Bell as she shares divorce tidbits, tips, do’s and don’ts inspired by the timeless classic that none of us can get out our heads this time of year. First up: “On the first day of Christmas, my true love gave to me….a partridge in a pear tree.” Are you the right partridge but in the wrong tree? Find out how to know when it’s time to take the step to get your divorce process started.
The Twelve Days of Christmas – Divorce Edition – Day 2
5:40 - Dec 11, 2020
Join Attorney Hannah Hembree Bell as she shares divorce tidbits, tips, do’s and don’ts inspired by the timeless classic that none of us can get out our heads this time of year. “On the second day of Christmas, my true love gave to me….two turtle doves.” Doves often symbolize peace. Unfortunately, peace is not going to be one of the top 5 words you use describe how the process of divorce makes you feel. Peace comes afterward—if you keep your eye on the long-term and don’t get sucked into trading short-term peace for long-term heartache.
The Twelve Days of Christmas – Divorce Edition – Day 3
6:54 - Dec 12, 2020
Join Attorney Hannah Hembree Bell as she shares divorce tidbits, tips, do’s and don’ts inspired by the timeless classic that none of us can get out our heads this time of year. “On the third day of Christmas, my true love gave to me….three French hens.” Does the very mention of the word “French” make you dream of days gone by when international trips were a thing and we could travel farther than from the living room to the kitchen? Just us? Tune in to talk international travel with children post-divorce (and post-pandemic, of course)!
The Twelve Days of Christmas – Divorce Edition – Day 4
6:02 - Dec 15, 2020
Join Attorney Hannah Hembree Bell as she shares divorce tidbits, tips, do’s and don’ts inspired by the timeless classic that none of us can get out our heads this time of year. (CK- insert music note emoji and Christmas emoji maybe).
“On the fourth day of Christmas, my true love gave to me….four calling birds.”
Listen, if you’re getting divorced and it rings, pings, or dings, you better LOCK.IT.DOWN. Y’all have heard me harp on this before. Hear it again. Think through how intertwined your tech life is with your current/future ex spouse. Now imagine alllll of your precious photos, videos, music, emails – everything got deleted. Scary thought, right?
The Twelve Days of Christmas – Divorce Edition – Day 5
5:27 - Dec 16, 2020
“On the fifth day of Christmas, my true love gave to me…five golden rings.”
Finally, some gifts we can get behind here! Don’t worry – more fowl to come! For those of you who may be on the giving or receiving end of an engagement ring this Christmas, you’ll want to tune in to today’s video. Find out what happens to the bling if things don’t work out!
The Twelve Days of Christmas – Divorce Edition – Day 6
5:35 - Dec 17, 2020
“On the sixth day of Christmas, my true love gave to me….six geese a laying.”
6 geese...laying eggs....sounds like a mess, amiright? Join Attorney Hannah Hembree Bell as she explains why worrying about who is laying their head next to your ex-factor at night via a “morality clause” could make a big mess in your life, post-divorce. In a nutshell - don’t set yourself up with one of these provisions in your Decree! Letting go and accepting that your life - and your kids’ lives - will look different after your divorce is hard stuff. This includes who your co-parent brings around the kids once the dust settles. But, trust us, doing the hard work of releasing that control and accepting your new circumstances sooner rather than later is in everyone’s best interest.
The Twelve Days of Christmas – Divorce Edition – Day 7
4:25 - Dec 18, 2020
“On the seventh day of Christmas, my true love gave to me….seven swans a swimming.”
One of the biggest lies you’ll hear during your divorce/custody drama will originate from your own mind. Anxiety is a cunning liar. It will tell you that you MUST solve every single contingency, every “what if”, every issue before it even occurs. The problem is - that’s not possible in normal life, let alone in the throes of litigation. Worrying and stressing won’t do anything except ruin your mental health and drive everyone around you insane. The truth is - all you can really do is carefully consider your options and then do the next right thing; not all problems solved for all time. So, like our little swans (and Dory from Finding Nemo), “just keep swimming” . You got this. Just do the next right thing.
The Twelve Days of Christmas – Divorce Edition – Day 8
6:10 - Dec 19, 2020
“On the eighth day of Christmas, my true love gave to me….eight maids-a-milking.”
Got caught with the milkmaid and wondering what it will cost you in your divorce? New milk-person caught your eye? You may want to think again....because it’ll probably cost you. Something like 2-5% of your estate, in fact. May not sound like much. But do the math. Your logical brain will say: not worth it. You gotta do what you gotta do, but pro-tip: you may want to get your own milk.
The Twelve Days of Christmas – Divorce Edition – Day 9
7:18 - Dec 22, 2020
“On the ninth day of Christmas, my true love gave to me….nine ladies dancing.”
One thing that may not seem like your #1 priority at mediation or when negotiating your divorce decree is making sure you can keep your own little ladies dancing (at ballet, tap, or jazz, that is!) once the dust settles. But, navigating your kids’ extracurricular involvement with your ex-factor can get murky—quick. Tune in to hear Attorney Hannah Hembree Bell’s take on why these provisions in your divorce decree can have such a huge impact on your life post-divorce and why you should think carefully before consenting to the “agree to agree” approach.
The Twelve Days of Christmas – Divorce Edition – Day 9
7:18 - Dec 22, 2020
“On the ninth day of Christmas, my true love gave to me….nine ladies dancing.”
One thing that may not seem like your #1 priority at mediation or when negotiating your divorce decree is making sure you can keep your own little ladies dancing (at ballet, tap, or jazz, that is!) once the dust settles. But, navigating your kids’ extracurricular involvement with your ex-factor can get murky—quick. Tune in to hear Attorney Hannah Hembree Bell’s take on why these provisions in your divorce decree can have such a huge impact on your life post-divorce and why you should think carefully before consenting to the “agree to agree” approach.
The Twelve Days of Christmas – Divorce Edition – Day 10
4:03 - Dec 23, 2020
“On the tenth day of Christmas, my true love gave to me….ten lords-a-leaping.”
When your divorce or custody modification is over, you’ll likely experience some relief or freedom out from under the immediate eyes of the court and your ex-factor. You might be tempted to make some big, life-altering changes asap. But, don’t fall into the trap of rash, emotional decision making. In today’s 12 Days, Attorney Hannah Hembree Bell reminds us all to "look before you leap”. Solid life advice for any situation, really. You won’t regret taking some time to make careful decisions—we promise. At least reserve the right to sleep on it, okay?
The Twelve Days of Christmas – Divorce Edition – Day 11
6:29 - Dec 24, 2020
“On the eleventh day of Christmas, my true love gave to me….eleven pipers piping.”
I’m going to let you in on a little secret - one of the best parts of getting divorced is that you get to be in charge of you again; you don’t have to answer to your ex-factor anymore; you don’t have to worry about their judgments or feelings about how you live your life. Yet, so many people fail to enjoy the fruits of their hard-earned labor. So stop following your own “pied piper”. You won’t be able to convince your ex that you’re this great person, or that your perspective is right, or any of the things. Stop trying and make your own way instead. You’ve earned it.
The Twelve Days of Christmas – Divorce Edition – Day 12
6:14 - Dec 25, 2020
“On the twelfth day of Christmas, my true love gave to me….twelve drummers drumming.”
Drum roll please! We made it to the grand finale of the 12 Days of Christmas - Divorce Edition (notice the extra flair??). Thanks to everyone for sticking with us on this journey. It’s been a blast! Now for day 12, we are all going to finish strong. Be it in your divorce, custody modification, or just surviving 2020. When it gets close to the end, you may feel the temptation to let up or take your foot off the gas. But, we got this! Dig deep, pull yourself up by the bootstraps, and finish strong. We’ll supply the drum roll.
