People often come to us trying to figure out when the best time is to get divorced: -Do they wait until summer? -Do they file after the first of the year? -Do they wait until their spouse gets that big raise? ...the list goes on. Though there is no “right” answer to these questions - but there is a wrong one. The worst time to get divorced is when you are at the absolute end of your rope. When you’re desperate...exhausted...depleted...spent.* And I get it...
Family Law Musing: Recent Happenings
5:57 - August 25, 2020
Big News? Update? All of the above!
Family Law Musing: Want to show the people in your life that you love them? Keep. Showing. Up.
1:00 - Feb 23, 2020
Family Law Musing: How to Be Kind to Yourself
5:28 - May 30, 2020
Y’all - Corona has been crazy. Getting divorced is crazy. Kids at home while trying to work is crazy. Nonstop time with a spouse who used to work all day is crazy. Not getting your hair/nails done for months is crazy. The list goes on. I’ve found that the emotions accompanying the crazy ebb and flow. Some days, I’m overwhelmed with gratefulness. Others, I’m discouraged and hard on myself. Some days are high, some days are low...some are just blah. In talking with friends and clients, it sounds like everyone else is in that same boat. We are all riding out the storm, unsure about what’s on the other side. I think the best antidote to some of the low/blah days is easily said but a little harder to practice: be. kind. to. yourself.
Family Law Musing: Lock the Front Door - The moment your freedom clicks into place.
5:21 - May 7, 2020
For those of you in the contemplation/early stages of divorce, there’s a day you may not even know to be looking forward to, the day you lock the front door behind you. Whether it’s in your new place or because he’s moved out, soon there will be a moment when you flip the deadbolt on that phase of your life. No more walking on eggshells; no more tip toeing around the huffing and puffing; no more ceding control of your life. You will hear the door click, and, you’ll realize that, from now on, only you decide who enters. You decide who and what you let into your world. You control what happens from that moment forward.
Family Law Musing: Addition by Subtraction
5:37 - April 22, 2020
It’s easy to focus on everything that’s been taken away or put on hold in light of the Corona crazy. You could sit and pout and count the minutes until all the doors swing open wide and things go back to “normal”. Or, as Attorney Hannah Hembree Bell suggests, you could use this time to reflect on whether an unexpected silver lining to all of this is addition by subtraction. Choice is yours.
Family Law Musing: An unintended byproduct of divorce: becoming a stronger person at each step.
2:06 - Feb 23, 2020
Family Law Musing: Freedom
4:58 - Feb 23, 2020
Family Law Musing: "All that I am, or hope to be, I owe to my mother." Happy stinking Mother's Day!