Introducing Your Kids To Their New Home Post-Divorce
June 9, 2021
A sudden change in any child’s life can feel devastating to them. Kids get attached to places and objects, especially their bedroom and home. When parents decide to get divorced, either one parent or the entire family unit must move to accommodate to their new situation. While this is just a part of the divorce process, kids can take this move hard. Today, we discuss ways to help your children feel comfortable in their second home post-divorce.
When Deciding to Move, Put Your Children’s Best Interests First
Do your best to put your children’s interests and wellbeing first as you navigate this step. This might look like choosing a house that is closer to their school and friends or picking a home near a park they love. Some additional ideas might include the following:
Bringing your children with you as you tour new homes and asking them their opinions
Creating a Pinterest board with your children so you can “create your dream home together”
Say goodbye to your old residence with a special ceremony
Involving your children in the moving process and making it fun for them
Be Honest With Your Children About The Move
Find a good time to tell your children that you will be moving. Remember that your younger children may have an emotional response to this news, which is okay and totally normal. Be understanding and loving as they respond. Keep a unified front with your co-parent about these types of conversations so one of you does not accidentally share the news when the other one has not.
Keep The Children’s Routine Going During The Transition
Kids thrive on routine. Moving will be difficult for the kids as it will disrupt their routine. They are also going to be processing the emotional toll of a divorce as well. Try to keep their usual daily routine and school routine going during this time. Match your routine up with your co-parent’s as well. This routine might consist of the following:
Going to bed at a certain time.
Eating dinner at a specific time.
Establishing a set time for play and homework.
Provide Your Children with Time to Adjust.
It might take your kids some time to get used to their new home. Stick with a routine, give them lots of love and support, and be there for them when they get emotional or overwhelmed. If they need additional support, you can always have a child therapist help out or carve out some time in your schedule for a “play day” with them.